A group wedding card from friends, family or colleagues

When a whole group wants to congratulate a couple (the office, the five-a-side team, the university friends scattered across Europe), one card signed by everyone means more than ten separate ones. Here's how to organise a group wedding card that people actually sign, and that the couple will keep.

Why one card from everyone works

• Nobody is left out. Friends abroad, colleagues working from home and relatives who can't make the wedding can all add their wishes.
• It's one beautiful thing to keep, instead of a pile of envelopes.
• People write more when they can see others' messages for inspiration.

Choose the right moment to deliver it

Think about when the couple will have time to enjoy it:

• Before the wedding, if colleagues are saying goodbye before the honeymoon. Deliver it on their last day in the office.
• On the morning of the wedding, as a lovely start to the day, when everyone's thoughts are with them.
• The day after, when the rush is over and they can read every message slowly.

You can schedule the card to arrive at an exact date and time, so you don't have to remember on the day.

Step by step

1. Start a wedding card. Choose a cover and add their names (a photo of the couple as the cover is coming soon).
2. Share the signing link with the group, but not with the couple! A private chat or an email works well.
3. Write the first message yourself. It sets the tone for everyone else.
4. Ask for photos. Pictures from the engagement party, the hen or stag do, or a favourite trip make the card come alive.
5. Send one reminder a few days before delivery with the Remind everyone button.
6. Check the messages before it goes out. As the organiser you can hide or delete any message.
7. Schedule the delivery to the couple's email, or share the recipient link yourself.

Need words? Share our list of wedding card messages with the group.

A digital guest book

Some couples use a group card as a guest book alternative: share the signing link with wedding guests (on the table cards, or in the thank-you message after the day), and every guest can add a message and a photo from their phone. The couple gets one card with everyone's wishes, and you can print it as a keepsake.

Turning it into a keepsake

A digital card is easy to open again, but some couples like something to hold. Print-ready PDFs of the whole card (A5 or A4, single pages or folded, for home or a print shop) are free during the beta: a lovely addition to the wedding album.

Ideas to make it memorable

• Advice from married guests: ask everyone to add one piece of advice for married life.
• "How we met the couple": each person shares how they know the bride or groom.
• Wishes for the first year: places to visit, things to try together.
• The playlist: everyone suggests one song for their first year of marriage.

What to write if you're stuck

Not everyone finds it easy to write something personal. Share a few prompts with the group to help:

• A wish: "I hope your home is always full of music and friends."
• A memory: "I'll never forget the night you two cooked for twelve people in a kitchen built for two."
• A compliment: "You bring out the best in each other, and it shows."
• A promise: "Our door is always open. Dinner's on us when you're back from the honeymoon."

Short is fine. Two warm sentences from thirty people make a wonderful card. For more ideas, see our list of wedding card messages.

Colleagues, clubs and big groups

When a large group signs (a whole office, a choir, a sports club), a few small things help:

• Name the organiser in the first message, so the couple knows who to thank.
• Ask people to sign with their full name and, for big groups, how they know the couple ("Maria, from the Tuesday running group").
• Keep it kind for every reader: the couple might share the card with their families.